Maintaining intimacy after becoming a parent

Highlights

• It’s normal for sexual intimacy to change after having a baby, but it doesn’t mean giving it up completely.
• Communication with your partner is key in maintaining intimacy and emotional connection.
• Take the time to adjust physically and emotionally before resuming sexual activity.
• Contraception is important even after childbirth if you are not planning another pregnancy.

In This Article

• How to keep a healthy sexual relationship with my partner after having a baby?
• How soon after having a baby can I have sex?
• How do my partner and I stay connected?
• How do I find time to spend with my partner?
• Do I need contraception when I have sex after having a baby?

How to keep a healthy sexual relationship with my partner after having a baby?

During pregnancy, future parents do not always think about how the birth of a child might affect their relationship.

This period can strengthen the bond between partners but may also require time for adjustment. Changes often involve sexual intimacy as well.

Having a baby does not mean giving up intimacy, but its frequency and nature may change.

How soon after having a baby can I have sex?

If there are no medical contraindications, sexual activity can resume when both partners feel physically and emotionally ready. For many, this may take weeks or even months—there is no universal timeframe.

It is important not to feel pressured and to maintain open communication with your partner.

Your body after having a baby

If there are no medical contraindications, sexual activity can resume when both partners feel physically and emotionally ready. For many, this may take weeks or even months—there is no universal timeframe.

It is important not to feel pressured and to maintain open communication with your partner.

Your mental health after having a baby

Not all births go as planned. The experience can be challenging and leave an emotional impact.

Both mothers and fathers may experience stress, fatigue, anxiety, or signs of depression. These factors can affect sexual relationships.

If you are concerned about your emotional well-being, consider seeking professional support.

Open communication between partners can help navigate these challenges and maintain intimacy.

How do my partner and I stay connected?

Some couples may feel distant when all attention is focused on the baby. One partner may feel undervalued or neglected. These feelings are a normal part of adjusting to a new stage in life.

Regular discussions about feelings can help both partners understand each other, reduce tension, and prevent resentment.

Simple ways to maintain intimacy:

• Hugs
• Kissing
• Sending affectionate messages during the day

How do I find time to spend with my partner?

Many new parents struggle with finding time and energy for each other. However, maintaining the relationship remains important.

Here are some ideas:

• Have dinner together when the baby is asleep.
• Take a walk together—even with the baby.
• Call or message each other during the day.
• Start with small outings, like going for coffee, and build up to longer dates.

Planning ahead — arranging a date, finding a babysitter, and making it happen — can help ensure quality time together.

Do I need contraception when I have sex after having a baby?

Pregnancy is possible as early as three weeks after giving birth, so if you are not planning another child, contraception is essential.

Most contraception methods can be used after childbirth. Consult a specialist to determine the best option for you.

Tools And Assistance

If you experience difficulties, consider seeking advice from a doctor, psychologist, or family therapist.

You can also find information and support on specialized parenting websites and forums.